As a guy

I will never understand why some people think that somehow a girl can be "asking for it" based on what she wears. Is there anything stupider than that? Guys walk around in skinny jeans that they are wearing halfway down their legs and people never think that they are asking for it. We don't dismiss other crimes as people asking for it,why is it that rape is something someone can be asking for? It doesn't matter if someone is walking around naked nobody is 'asking' to be assaulted and yet people still go with this idea that if she is drunk or dressing a certain way that she is somehow doing something wrong, it just boggles my mind that this is something that women have to deal with. But its something so engrained in our society that even women think this kind of thing, we push this idea in media too and kids grow up seeing this thing and continue to think thats just the way things should be.
This obviously doesn't just stop  at women either everything in Ferguson, Missouri and with Trayvon Martin has shown that many people view being a young black man is enough of a reason to judge someone guilty of whatever crime that they have been accused of according to white America and I am speaking as a guy who is part of white America. It has apparently never crossed anybodies mind that maybe we just should try and make a point of not shooting and killing everyone, in my mind it doesn't matter if Mike Brown robbed a convenience store, which is doesn't sound like he did, police should try and do everything they can to not shoot and kill people as should everyone else. This is not something that we can fix with a law or any other one action, it needs our society to change its mindset; this is something that it is fully capable of doing but will take time. In 1996 27% of people were in favor of gay marriage while 65% opposed it, today 55% support gay marriage and that number will continue to grow.
We can change these perceptions but first we need to recognize the problems and as of today the vast majority of people do not recognize them and are still blaming the victim.